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Oh, and one more thing, a poster earlier wondered about what happens if it "really starts to hurt." Hmmnnn. . .for some people that's when it gets fun. There's a reasonably good chance someone with this kind of fantasy may have a masochistic streak and some pain intensifies the sense of reality.

Posted by justchecking on January 21, 2011 at 8:09 PM · Report
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justchecking @30 wrote: "But the point is, where do Mistress Matisse and everybody on this board--with a few exceptions like DirtyYoungExec? and Amanda -- get off telling her she is wrong to even WANT it?"

But she doesn't *just* want it, does she? I had the impression that she wants to act it out. You can fantasize about all sorts of things but that doesn't mean they will work in reality. Sometimes they do, and plenty of people act out successful "rape" scenes in which everybody has fun, but her version doesn't exactly sound like a formula for success. Some things are just better left as fantasies.
Posted by Diagoras on January 21, 2011 at 11:01 PM · Report
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@31 Er... but how does that work in a relationship where one person wants to get seriously kinky and the other doesn't "want to be a rapist"?

I agree with the people who say that going straight from vanilla to rape scenes with no safeword is NOT a recipe for success. But my boyfriend's pretty vanilla, and I have rape fantasies (all mine involve it being play acting and consent being paramount though) and you know what? I just HAVEN'T TOLD HIM YET. I told him I liked light bondage, hair pulling and spanking, and that I was a bit more kinky than that but that stuff could wait. How would it be fair to expect him to go from vanilla to pretending to rape me?