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Disrespectful people will categorize people like they are cattle waiting for slaughter. All human beings deserve respect whether or not you would select them as a mate.

I just want to point out that the average emotionally healthy woman does not want to have sex with more than 1 man at a time not because she fears feeling like a slut. Instead, it is due to biological drive. We aren’t hardwired to have sex with multiple partners in the same way you guys are. – Vox

Where I disagree with Vox is that men are conditioned or wired to screw as many women as they can, whenever they can. I really wish we could get away from that stereotype, as I think many people like to fall back on that to explain why some men do certain things. Sometimes it’s not about biology. Sometimes they’re just assholes who suffer from entitlement or a fragile ego. Those two character flaws are hardly gender specific and most certainly not based on biology.

I’m also not able to agree that women are wired to prefer monogamy*. Do I think we run more of a risk of getting attached? Yes. Do I think that there’s a biological reason for that? Yes. But I do not believe that women are “wired” to avoid* having multiple partners. I think all of that shame stuff comes from external sources, like parents or the media or religious beliefs, not internal wiring.

Your thoughts?

*ETA: As one commenter pointed out, I didn’t read Vox’s original comment correctly. Where I disagree is that we are “wired” to not engage in sexual experiences with more than one partner in any given time period. Nor do I agree that men are “wired” this way, as it implies that they have no control over their actions and choices.